This morning, I was moving around in the room when Julia’s eyes popped open and she jumped out of bed. She went straight to her vanity, put on about ten bracelets and started to dance. She jumped around a little, then quieted herself, gracefully lifted her arms up over her head and rose up on her tip toes. She turned and turned, losing her balance a little as she said, “Ballalina, Mommy. I do ballet.”
What a way to start the day, huh?Â I can’t remember the last time I jumped out of bed and welcomed the day with a dance. (In fact, it’s been a long time since I “jumped” out of bed. Now, it’s more of a roll and a crawl to the nearest caffeinated beverage before I can start jumping.)Â Most of Julia’s days start out and are filled with dancing. I enjoy watching her dance and I love dancing with her.
Dancing…well, it’s kind of our thing.
Since Julia was born, we’ve danced together. It started simply. I’d sway and rock with her to calm her during those first weeks of her life when we were just getting to know each other. Soon, I discovered that bouncing her up and down, moving from side to side and spinning around made her wiggle and smile. After a few months,Â those wiggles and smiles became giggles. Once I found a surefire way to make her giggle, I wanted to do it again and again. So, I did. Dancing with Julia quickly became a daily ritual.
We’d dance to relieve stress or stop the tears. As she grew, it was a great way to illustrate concepts like fast and slow or up and down. Eventually, it became a way for us to communicate what we weren’t able to express verbally. I mean, can you really just tell someone they fill your heart with joy? It’s better to show them. Our way was by jumping, twisting, shaking and grooving to a funky fresh batch of tunes. Dancing together helped us relate to each other and it became a special bonding time.
We still dance together, pretty much every other day. We call it “Dance Party Time,” and do it when no one else is home. We put on our Dance Party Mix and let loose. Really, we get pretty crazy. It is sort of a mental and physical release, for me. I love it because for that short period, I’m not worried about money, how I look or what other people think. I’m just having a great time with my girl; it’s just the two of us with no distractions and no judgments.
Dancing with Julia helps me remember what’s important and that life is supposed to be fun. Seeing her dance around each day makes me feel like I just might be doing something right. She’s such a happy child. I’d like to think that our time dancing together is teaching her something about expressing joy, loving life, sharing with someone and feeling good in her own skin. Or maybe she’s just learning to play wicked air-guitar and pull off some kick-ass robot moves. Either way, it’s time well spent.