I’m not ashamed to admit that I was pretty excited to review the BlogHer Book Club’s latest pick Diary of a Submissive: A Modern True Tale of Sexual Awakening. I enjoy sex. And sometimes, I like to read about sex. (If you don’t, you probably wouldn’t like this book. And if kinky sex isn’t your thing? You really wouldn’t like this book.) This book seemed especially provocative to me and not because the publisher was calling it “The “real” Fifty Shades of Grey.” (I haven’t read that book. I probably won’t.) It was the “true life erotic story of female submission to rival The Story of O” claim that got me. I loved The Story of O. I read it in my late teens/early twenties and it made a lasting impression. But The Story of O is a filthy little BDSM fairy tale – a fantasy. This book? True, supposedly. Real life. And I wanted to read about that. Having a fantasy or a desire isn’t necessarily the same as having it realized, so I was intrigued.

Diary of a Submissive didn’t disappoint me. The story of feminist-by-day/submissive-by-night Sophie Morgan (a pseudonym, for obvious reasons) was totally believable. Even though her life in England is far from my own, it felt honest. Also shocking and GRAPHIC. It was like a book-long letter to Penthouse in terms of explicitness (and depth of the characters beyond Sophie’s, though I guess most “diaries” are, by definition, about the author above all else). The writing was good and it captivated me (although I thought it started stronger than it ended). I felt a little uncomfortable and a whole lot dirty reading a few passages, but it offered a raw view of real Dominant/submissive relationships (which I’ve gathered are extremely time-consuming, by the way). And that’s exactly what I was expecting it to deliver. I’m especially excited to see what kind of conversation it’ll spark within the BlogHer community. I hope you’ll join me there for some stimulating discussion this month!

This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed are my own.