It’s a wonderful opportunity to meet some brilliant mothers; to celebrate, learn from and be inspired by our differences, while drawing strength and support from the common ground we share.

This is Motherhood:  Showing you a new face each month in 2008.

This month’s This Is Motherhood feature columnist isn’t just any mother; she is my mother.

She took me completely by surprise when she submitted her piece. It hadn’t occurred to me to invite her to participate. But I’m glad she did. I think she wrote something incredible. I’ve read it over and over and still find myself choking back tears. Maybe it’s because I’m her daughter and I understand the meaning of the words she chose. Or maybe it’s because I’m now a mother that I understand.

I hope you’ll read her column and let us know what you think, right after the obligatory This Is Motherhood interview.

Leslie: As most of my readers know, our family is part of our nation’s fastest growing demographic: we live in a multigenerational home. What’s it like living with me – your adult daughter – and my family? How has it affected your role as mom?

Georgina: I have to sit back and let you be the mom in the household. When you were growing up-especially as a teenager–I always felt that I had to be a very strong figure in your life. Now I see you being the strong figure in your kid’s lives. I am enjoying it.

Leslie: You’re more than mom, now. You are also a grandmother. Has your view of motherhood changed since the birth of your grandchildren?

Georgina: My view of motherhood has stayed the strong view I have always had. Life is all about your children. It has always bothered me when people look at children and say “there is the world of tomorrow”. They are the word today and we overlook their values and opinions too easily.

Leslie: What has been your biggest challenge as a mother?

Georgina: Life has really thrown our family into some heartbreaking and tough situations. I think that my biggest challenge has been to try to keep us family. That is when we are our strongest.

Leslie: What is your proudest mommy moment?

Georgina: I think my proudest moment was when you realized that you were worth more than you were told. I watched you crawl out of a tough situation and stand on your own–then you went out and found your dream–having your own family and children.

Leslie: If you were given a day completely to yourself where you could do whatever you wanted – money is no object – how would you spend that day?

Georgina: I would spend it at HOME!!! Where else is there?

Please go and read this months edition of This Is Motherhood!

It’s a wonderful opportunity to meet some brilliant mothers; to celebrate, learn from and be inspired by our differences, while drawing strength and support from the common ground we share.

This is Motherhood:  Showing you a new face each month in 2008.

I am delighted to introduce you to this month’s feature columnist, Pam of Bubbles Writes. I can’t remember exactly how I came to read her blog, but I know she had me hooked after just two posts. She’s laugh out loud hilarious and one of the bravest bloggers I’ve read. I absolutely adore this woman. She inspires me. I feel proud to call her a friend. And I’m so glad to have the opportunity to shine my little spotlight on her. So, please check out her column after our little getting-to-know-Pam interview.

Leslie: Why do you blog?

Pam: I started blogging as a way to keep track of important events in our family but then the fame and fortune of it all became addicting and now, well, I must write to feed the masses (better known as my 4 loyal readers).

Leslie: If your blog were a food or beverage, what would it be and why?

Pam: A big messy plate of nachos w/ extra jalapenos. It’s a gooey mess of goodness with lots of heat.

Leslie: You are the mother of three boys. How has motherhood changed as your family has grown?

Pam: Before I remarried and had small boy, it was just my two boys and me against the world. With the new Dad and the small boy, we feel like a real full circle family. I’m grateful to have a partner to help shoulder the responsibilites of parenting. Because each of my boys came seven years apart, we are enjoying (or enduring) vastly different milestones and stages with each boy all at one time. As I wrote about, while one child is embracing full on manhood, another is getting his first pimple while another is mooning over Hannah Montana and laughing at The Suite Life. It’s a family full of very different demands all at once and I’m definitely a better Mother for having a partner to help.

Leslie: What do you want to teach your children?

Pam: To find happiness whenever possible, to find the lesson in every experience, to listen to their hearts and follow their paths with integrity and kindness. Also, not to flick their boogers on the walls of their rooms.

Leslie: If you were given a day completely to yourself where you could do whatever you wanted – money is no object – how would you spend that day?

Pam: I would rent a beautiful condo on the beach with a full wait staff, lay on the beach with a great book, have my every wish granted (hello cabana boy) and sleep for days. Also, could I have every size 10 Manolo Blahniks ever made delivered to the condo? Man that sounds superficial and vain. I should probably have said that I’d hop a cargo plane to a third world country and volunteer to rebuild cities and teach the villagers to turn dirty sewer water into clean drinking water.

When I first put the word out that I was searching for columnists for This Is Motherhood, Pam was one of the first to sign on, calling dibs early on the month of May; don’t miss her edition of This Is Motherhood to see why. And be sure to visit her blog, Bubbles Writes.


by Toni

Whenever I tell people that we homeschool the question of socialization always seems to come up.  Let me state for the record that I believe “socialization” for most homeschoolers is a non-existent problem.  It’s something that non-homeschoolers like to point out because it makes them feel better about their own choices.  But this is not about that.  That rant deserves a post all its own and it deserves to be written on my own blog so when the nasty comments start pouring in they will come to my inbox instead of going to my kind friend Leslie who didn’t know what she was asking when she invited me to write a guest post.

So, if this post is not a rant about socialization, what is it?  Why even bring the topic up?  Well, I bring it up because part of socialization is about learning interpersonal skills such as understanding the art of introductions, small talk, sarcasm, compromise, offering sympathy, and a number of other language essentials.  These we cover pretty well within our home.  Another part of socialization is about making and keeping friends.  To this second point, I make a concerted effort to ensure my children not only have a relatively consistent group of people to interact with but are also regularly introduced to new potential friends.  We go to karate and girl scouts.  We schedule playdates and sleepovers. We go to storytime at the library and meet random children at the park.

The short encounters are the ones I like.  Get in. Get out. Don’t pick up any bad habits on your way through.

The long encounters I approach with some trepidation, nay even fear, because while my children are always kind and thoughtful and they never hit or throw sand or refuse to share (HA!) who knows how those other children may influence them. No matter how much I wish for it no one else seems inclined to raise their children exactly like I do and I fear that from the children of these other parents my kiddos may learn a new word (or two) or *gasp* gain a new perspective.  During these long encounters, I have so much less control over this bubble I maintain around my family.  And it makes me uncomfortable.

Every family has a certain collection of experiences that shape and define them – our baggage, so to speak.  And it’s not really that each of us has any more or less baggage than anyone else.  It’s that we like our own baggage.  Or, if we don’t like it, we are at least comforted by its familiarity.  We know which zippers don’t work quite right and how the handle must be held “just so.”  We know what’s inside without looking and we know where each piece came from.

Each time I allow my children to venture from the bubble they seem to return with someone else’s luggage.  Not a 5 piece set, mind you, but something small – a handbag, maybe or a carry-on.  And whatever they bring back can’t be returned.  Instead we have to shift things around to make room for this new idea or behavior.  Sometimes we have to re-arrange our conversation to explain some previously unknown concept.  Herein lies the difficulty for me.

Do I limit life to our bubble?  Or do I let my children explore knowing they will return with thoughts I did not give them and quite likely do not agree with?  The reality (in case you hadn’t guessed already) is that I can’t keep my children “safe” in a bubble forever.  Oh, maybe I could come pretty close but the reality  (because I need to remind myself sometimes) is that I don’t want to.  As much as I like my own luggage I suspect my children’s journey will be all the better if I let them start out lighter.  They’ll have their own set soon enough.

About the author: Toni is the wife of her best friend and the mother to two incredible little teachers. Each day they explore their world and and when there is time she comes to her blog This Simple Life to share their discoveries with you.

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